Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Things You Need to Know About Each Other Before You Get Married

By Jenny Davis

Want to make sure you are making the right decision about getting married? That you truly know who your partner is and that you can spend the rest of your life with them?

Avoid problems in marriage, heartache, separation and divorce by getting to know your partner NOW before you get married. How they cope with different issues and situations will give you a much better understanding of whether they are the one for you or not.

What kind of issues and situations should you be discussing before you get married? Here are some important topics and some example questions that you should really know the answers to before you get married.

1. FAMILY & FRIENDS - ESPECIALLY THE IN-LAWS

What values do you want to bring from your family into our marriage?

What do you like about your family and what things don't you like?

2. HEALTH, FOOD & WELL BEING

Are we happy with each other's approach to healthy living? Are there things that we could change that both the other person such as drinking, smoking, lack of exercise?

What is your family history and do you have any worries for your health?

3. WORK LIFE

How long will we be at work and from what times?

What gives you real job satisfaction?

4. ETHICS, CENTRAL BELIEFS AND CONVICTIONS IN LIFE

Which person in your life as had the biggest impact on you and why?

Would you ever stand up and physically fight for anything, if so what?

5. FINANCES

How much do we owe in debts and what are our assets? What does our balance sheet look like?

How do we manage our finances?

6. SEX LIFE

Do you discuss with your partner what you love about sex and what you hate?

What are your expectations about sex?

7. HOLIDAYS

How would you like to spend your free time?

What be your all time holiday destination and why?

8. HOBBIES & INTERESTS

Are we happy with our social life? Is it there anything else we need socially?

Are there any hobbies or interests you would like to do in the future either together or on your own?

9. PARENTING AND KIDS

What kind of parent will you be?

What are your personal experiences from your youth?

10. THE FUTURE AND YOUR PAST

What do we as a couple want out of life?

What are your long-range goals? Short-range goals?

11. COMMUNICATING

Are we going to be honest and open in our relationship?

What is your way of dealing with issues that bother you?

12. PETS IN THE HOME

Do you want pets in the future? If so what kind?

What are the reasons for wanting/or not wanting a pet?

13. TYING THE KNOT AND THE HONEYMOON

What are the reasons why you would like to get married?

Do you have cold feet?

14. RELIGION

Does religion play an important part in your life?

Are you spiritual?

15. CONFLICT AND PROBLEMS

How will we deal with problems or difficult areas in our life?

How will we handle each other's contradictions?

16. FAMILY AND HOME LIFE

What will our strategy be for chores? Do we have different standards of organizing things and keeping things clean?

What are your expectations on "alone time?" Is this something that you need?

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