Monday, February 9, 2009

How to find your dream date

By Tracy Anderson

Do you fantasize about meeting the girl of your dreams on Valentine's Day? Are you frustrated because you don't have the nerve or the courage to approach women? Do you grope in the dark or fumble whenever you try to break the ice and have a conversation with a lady you meet? Don't you wish you could be like James Bond and be appealing to any woman anytime?

If you answered "yes" to the above questions, you're not alone. A lot of men are looking for their dream dates in time for the day of hearts. But many are lost and don't know what to do. To help you in your quest for your ideal soul mate, here are some things to consider:

Look in the right places. Bars, fancy restaurants and hotels are traditional places to find your woman. But don't limit yourself to these places. Learn to explore. Be like Magellan and sail off to other spots like malls, bookshops and theaters. Don't go too far though. That dream date you're looking for may be your next door neighbor!

Don't date. That's right! You read it right. Instead of showing her around town, getting drunk and doing something stupid, why not invite her out for coffee for a change? That way, you'll be more relaxed and at home with each other.

Be yourself. Don't talk to impress or brag about your talents or riches. You may hook her for the wrong reasons. Don't speak like a geek either. Your date might not be interested in the lecture you recently gave at the Smithsonian Institute!

And don't think you can get her with your canned pick up lines. She's heard it all before and that won't make you stand out among the other guys she's dated. Let her do the talking instead and be a good listener.

Pay attention to what she's saying (even if it doesn't make sense sometimes!) Remember that less is more. The less you talk about yourself, the more mysterious you become and chances are the more attractive you'll be to her.

Be naughty. No, I don't mean putting your fingers or hands where they don't belong! Say something witty or mischievous. Better yet, say something sexy and funny at the same time. Your date will be puzzled at your remarks at first but will like it in the end. But don't overdo it or you might get slapped!

Prepare for her tests. If you tease her, there's a big chance your date will also tease you. Some women do this by asking you to buy something for them. It's a test designed to see how well she can manipulate you. Don't fall for this one! Instead of falling for her charms and doing what she says, get back at her with a witty remark like, "Do I look like the bank?" Be funny and firm at the same time. It'll drive your woman wild!

Read. This is important. If you can't carry a conversation with her or at least add to what she's saying, she'll lose interest in you. Read all sorts of materials - books, newspapers, or anything under the sun. That way, you won't look like an ignoramus.

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