The pain of breaking up is a very profound type of injury that is very similar to the grief felt over someone who has passed away. Your significant other has left, leaving a hole in you that refuses to heal. Your relationship with your ex has died, never to be experienced again.
As with all of the traumatic events that people go through in their lives, life must go on. It is vital to your own well being to find a way to look past the pain. Getting on with your life should be more than surviving, you want to be thriving again. Below are some suggestions for getting past the pain and moving on.
1.) Surround yourself with people and friends. Even though you may have lost your partner, you still have others in your life who care: be with them. Now is not the time to be the rugged individualist.
Keeping it all to yourself will make your attempt at getting over the pain even more difficult. So give your friends a call and get a little support in a time of need.
2.) Don't spend your time brooding over the break up or on the relationship that was lost. It is a normal thing to want to analyze the details of the breakup, but this can soak up too much of your emotional reserves and energy.
As I said before, being with other people is important for getting past the pain. Seeking advice about your breakup can be therapeutic but don't overburden them with this. The reason for being with people is to get out and have some fun.
3.) Be careful with the type of music you play. Avoid any music that may resurrect old emotions associated with your break up. Music can have a strong effect when it comes to pulling on your emotional strings. So play something more happy.
4.) Don't get snagged by the self pity, sadness trap, because you could get drawn into the living death called depression. Believe me when I tell you that you do not want to end up there. Depression is a type of mental illness which disrupts and harms the lives of those afflicted with it.
The "sweet melancholy" of romantic music or of movies seems to feel good and doesn't cause harm. But this is because the sadness induced is artificial and comes to an end when the movie or song is over. However, real personal sadness can be a consuming bottomless pit that has no end.
5.) Most important of all, you must be optimistic about where you're going in life. This optimism should also be applied to your future prospects of finding love. Everyone that has a life will have been through a break up and have successfully moved on.
There may be a good chance that you can get back together with your ex. If not, there will be other lovers in your future. You only have to make the effort and just do it.
As with all of the traumatic events that people go through in their lives, life must go on. It is vital to your own well being to find a way to look past the pain. Getting on with your life should be more than surviving, you want to be thriving again. Below are some suggestions for getting past the pain and moving on.
1.) Surround yourself with people and friends. Even though you may have lost your partner, you still have others in your life who care: be with them. Now is not the time to be the rugged individualist.
Keeping it all to yourself will make your attempt at getting over the pain even more difficult. So give your friends a call and get a little support in a time of need.
2.) Don't spend your time brooding over the break up or on the relationship that was lost. It is a normal thing to want to analyze the details of the breakup, but this can soak up too much of your emotional reserves and energy.
As I said before, being with other people is important for getting past the pain. Seeking advice about your breakup can be therapeutic but don't overburden them with this. The reason for being with people is to get out and have some fun.
3.) Be careful with the type of music you play. Avoid any music that may resurrect old emotions associated with your break up. Music can have a strong effect when it comes to pulling on your emotional strings. So play something more happy.
4.) Don't get snagged by the self pity, sadness trap, because you could get drawn into the living death called depression. Believe me when I tell you that you do not want to end up there. Depression is a type of mental illness which disrupts and harms the lives of those afflicted with it.
The "sweet melancholy" of romantic music or of movies seems to feel good and doesn't cause harm. But this is because the sadness induced is artificial and comes to an end when the movie or song is over. However, real personal sadness can be a consuming bottomless pit that has no end.
5.) Most important of all, you must be optimistic about where you're going in life. This optimism should also be applied to your future prospects of finding love. Everyone that has a life will have been through a break up and have successfully moved on.
There may be a good chance that you can get back together with your ex. If not, there will be other lovers in your future. You only have to make the effort and just do it.
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